Mission Statement: To empower people to see infidelity and sexual betrayal as abuse and to help them discover their tools to heal the resulting trauma. I use my training and personal experience to support you on your path to healing and taking back your power. Sexual Betrayal Trauma can occur when a partner cheats or has a porn addiction. The abuse that accompanies these choices can be mental, emotional, verbal, physical, spiritual, and financial. The impact to the victim is devastating. I can help.
Sexual Betrayal Trauma occurs when a partner cheats- emotionally, physically, or with porn. Men & women are affected by this. Gaslighting, lying, blameshifting, deflecting, and using marital funds have a profound effect on the victim. It also affects children in the relationship. This type pf betrayal does incredible damage, including PTSD and anxiety disorders. PTSD is a brain injury resulting from trauma. There is help and, you can recover and heal.
Support
"Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection. That's why healthy relationships are difficult for wounded people." ~Ryan North Together we can discover what you need to stabilize ®gulate your nervous system, and create healthy connection, to your self and others.
Self Care
North Star promotes individualized self care, tailored to your specific needs. This isn't bubble baths and mani's, this is real healing that helps you recognize and celebrate your worth.
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About
I am a Trauma Recovery Coach, specializing in Sexual Betrayal Trauma. I began my training after discovering my husband's secret porn addiction. I struggled to find help that didn't victim blame or cause more trauma. I sought to be the change I needed. No betrayed person should be further traumatized and abused by a system that negates their experience. I am deeply committed to walk the path to healing with you. Together we can discover the tools you need to recover and thrive in your healing.
More about me.... I'm a mom of 2 amazing young women. I worked in a skilled nursing care facility as a CNA for 30 years, on the night shift. I ended two marriages due to infidelity and porn abuse. With trauma therapy and nervous system regulation, I now live a life I love. Im in a healthy relationship with my partner Eric, and together we're learning who we are when we're NOT being abused. I'm dedicated to recovery and healing trauma induced by sexual betrayal.
Barb Kozar
Trauma Recovery Coach
My partner Eric & I
Policies & Procedures
NON-DISCRIMINATION: NORTH STAR DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE IN ANY WAY AGAINST ANY RELIGION, AGE, RACE, GENDER, STEREOTYPE, HAIR COLOR, DRESS CODE, ETC. COME AS YOU ARE!
CONFIDENTIALITY IS OF THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE. I WILL NOT SHARE YOUR PERSONAL DETAILS OR STORIES TO ANYONE WITHOUT YOUR WRITTEN PERMISSION (THERAPISTS, DOCTORS, ETC). THE ONLY EXCEPTIONS TO THIS ARE THAT I AM A MANDATORY REPORTER IN CASES OF IMMEDIATE HARM.
CELL PHONES:
I UNDERSTAND THE NEED TO STAY CONNECTED FOR CHILDREN, RESPONSIBILITIES, WORK, ETC. I RESPECTFULLY ASK THAT CELL PHONES BE ON VIBRATE SO WE CAN FOCUS ON YOU DURING OUR TIME TOGETHER.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM ME :
I WILL BE ON TIME AND READY TO ASSIST YOU. YOU WILL HAVE MY FULL FOCUS IN OUR TIME TOGETHER. I WILL BE UP TO DATE ON THE MOST CURRENT TRAUMA TREATMENT AND PROTOCOLS. I DO NOT DIAGNOSE CONDITIONS, OR PRESCRIBE MEDICATIONS. I WILL FULLY HONOR THAT YOU ARE AN EXPERT ON YOU. I WILL HELP WITH TOOLS AND STRATEGIES, AND TOGETHER WE WILL ENSURE YOU ARE ON THE RIGHT PATH FOR YOU. I FULLY VALUE YOUR INDIVIDUALITY AND RESPECT YOUR KNOWLEDGE OF YOURSELF.
FAQ
What are your business hours?
Contact me to set up an initial consult to determine the best times for you. I fully understand the nature of this trauma, including childcare, work schedules, and just...life! I am very flexible and will help you find a time most beneficial to you. I run on EST.
Rescheduling, Cancellations
Rescheduling with at least 24 hours notice is perfectly acceptable. Cancellations cannot be refunded.
Sessions
Sessions are 50 minutes. Occasionally additional time may be needed, and can be built into your schedule. Sessions can include packages or individual. The inital consult lasts about 1.5 hours.
What type of payment methods do you accept?
North Star accepts Paypal for payment.
Sexual Betrayal Trauma
At North Star, infidelity is recognized as abuse. Abuse causes trauma to the victim, and requires specialized care to recover and heal.
Contact me to set up an initial consult. Initial consults usually take about 1.5 hours. I have very flexible availability to accomodate family needs and tough schedules.